Effective Communication

How To Get The Respect And Appreciation You Deserve

If you have ever tired to win the respect and approval of others you know how difficult it can be. Especially when people are not responsive, causing you to feel anxious and even more nervous.

What typically happens next is that you perform poorly because you feel tense. You fail to express yourself as well as you can so others do not see you in the best light.

This of course is not a good recipe for winning respect and appreciation. What can you do to create a favorable impression in the eyes of those you want to impress?

• Relax when meeting people - This is easier said than done unless you know how to quickly relax even in difficult situations. The ability to relax when under pressure is an essential skill that allows you to be at your best whenever you need to be.When you feel relaxed you will quickly and easily keep the conversation flowing, you won´t worry about making mistakes and you´ll find it easier to think of interesting things to say. Imagine how good that will feel!Feeling relaxed enables you to enjoy the moment, to pay closer attention to whoever you are talking to and to drop those nagging feelings of self-consciousness.Instant relaxation is the secret to effortlessly making conversation on a broad range of topics without worrying about saying the wrong thing.
• Don´t beg for respect - A common mistake is to be overly nice in the hope of earning respect. This approach never works. The harder you try to impress the more desperate you will seem.The best way to earn respect is to start by respecting yourself. Positive self-talk, affirmations and visualization all go a long way towards building a sense of pervasive self-esteem that others pick up on.The more you respect yourself, the better other people will treat you. Why? Because your posture, the way you talk and you entire presence will change for the better when you feel better about yourself.Others merely reflect back how you treat yourself. When you change your behavior other people respond by changing how they interact with you.When you have more self-respect for some strange reason whoever you talk to will pick up on it and start showing you more respect.
• Respect and appreciate the other person - The more you choose to like and appreciate the person you are talking to the more that person will warm to you. When you exude interest, when you really listen to the other person and especially when you compliment that person you encourage a favorable response from them.

People feel obligated to return good treatment with more of the same. You will notice more compliments, genuine interest in you and even delight when you give of these qualities first.So remember to give what you want to get!

Doing so can feel awkward and uncomfortable at first if you are used to letting others do most of the talking. You need to get used to speaking up and even leading the conversation if you are to create an environment of mutual respect and appreciation.

This is a very important distinction - if you do not make this change in how you deal with people you will never be more than a relatively passive observer of the conversations unfolding before you.

posted by Indira Bandari @ 6:55 PM