Effective Communication

The 3 Ways to Guarantee Superior People Skills

Success is an inside job! How well you communicate depends on how you think and feel. You can have the greatest script in the world but still stumble in conversation if nerves get the better of you.On the other hand you can exude confidence and charm and still make a poor first impression if you do not know the right thing to say.In each case the key to transforming failure into success lies within.

You need to appreciate how important mental and emotional conditioning are when it comes to developing superior people skills.---

The 3 Ways to Guarantee Superior People Skills ---

• Regard conversation skills as another skill you plan to master.Making people like you is an acquired skill. You can learn how to encourage others to listen to you. Also, making a great first impression is a matter of knowing how to.Treat communication skills as a step by step formula to be uncovered and learned. If even one other person can do it well then so can you once you learn how.When you stop giving yourself a hard time for your past performance and instead commit to learning how to be better you can improve very quickly.
• Take charge of your emotional state.The greatest speech can be destroyed by a dull voice tone and the best joke can lose its humor when it isn´t delivered properly.All too often in your desire to do well you freeze and choose to say nothing in case you make a fool of yourself. Then people say you are too quite and it starts to seem as if you can never win.Speak up and sound foolish or stay quiet and get criticized. Some choice!Fear is getting the better of you. Your fear of what might go wrong can take on a life of its own unless you take charge of your emotional state.What is the answer? The key is to develop the ability to eliminate fear - fear of rejection, the fear of looking stupid and the fear of saying the wrong thing.
• Allow yourself to make mistakes.One of the biggest errors I see people making is the all or nothing attitude. i.e. I will give it my best and if I fail I will never try again! The challenge with that attitude is that human beings learn by trial and error.None of us were born with the ability to walk, talk or drive a car! We learn all the crucial life skills by observing, experimenting and correcting our mistakes.If you demand 100% success and perfection you will be very disappointed and you will never develop exceptional people skills.On the other hand when you allow yourself to make mistakes it takes a lot of the pressure off you. You will perform a lot better when you allow yourself to be less than perfect - a work in progress that is always maturing.

Mistakes then become evidence of areas for improvement. Get fascinated by how you achieve both good results and not so good results. Notice what is working and do more of it, notice what is not working and aim to do less of it.

One improvement after another is all it takes. Each little modification to your approach will take you closer and closer to a breakthrough.

posted by Indira Bandari @ 8:34 PM