Effective Communication

The 3 Ways To Turn Conversation Fear Into Courage

Have you ever found yourself in a social setting feeling awkward, stuck for words and unsure of what to say and how to say it?Maybe you were at a large family gathering such as a wedding or a birthday party.

Regardless of the context you know the uncomfortable feelings that can stop you from speaking up and enjoying yourself.What can you do to beat conversation fear?

• Be Yourself --Take it easy and don´t put yourself under undue pressure to be the life and soul of the party. Be yourself. And if that isn´t good enough for some people then be selective and mix with people more to your liking.It is your choice who YOU mix with so don´t be passive and leave it to others to decide if they want to talk to you.You get to choose!
• Respect Conversational Give And Take --People tend to gravitate to people who are good listeners so don´t feel that you have to talk until you are blue in the face. It is perfectly acceptable to be quiet, to listen and to encourage others to talk.Good conversation is about give and take so develop both of these aspects of conversation skills. Start to get a feel for the dance of conversation and the ebb and flow of how people interact and let the conversation take on a life of its own.You are only one of the players - give and take, talk and listen, lead and follow.
• Deal With Fear --We all have to deal with fear to improve the quality of our lives and our social interactions. The secret is to transform fear into courage by taking charge of our emotional states.Thankfully, this is a skill anyone can learn and the implications for your life are huge. Imagine, how you will feel when you can approach even perfect strangers with an air of confident self assurance.

posted by Indira Bandari @ 8:41 PM