Effective Communication

Getting people to like you

Making friends and influencing people can sometimes seem like a game you cannot win. You want to be liked and somehow this gets in the way. The harder you try the more tense you get until it seems much easier to simply give up.

The great irony is that when you are carefree about whether people like you they tend to like you much more. Why? Because people pick up on the energy you exude. When you feel good about yourself they sense that and reflect this positive energy back to you.

On the other hand when you feel unsure, timid or nervous it makes others feel unsure about dealing with you. They sense that you are tense and avoid you.

Thankfully there are three simple steps to getting people to like you...

• RelaxBefore important social gatherings make a point of relaxing. Spend 20 minutes in meditation, listening to relaxing music or visualising how you want to perform when you meet people.By doing so you will feel more relaxed later on when you meet people because it will take the edge off the tension you usually feel.
• Decide to Like Yourself MoreAlthough this sounds kind of odd it is a very important principle to take on board. The more you like and appreciate yourself the more comfortable you will be when you introduce yourself to new people. When you feel good about yourself it is natural to smile and express yourself with confidence. People will warm to you. You will become the person everyone wants to meet. The easiest way to cultivate this attribute is to see yourself as a warm, charismatic person.
• Be Carefree - It is extremely important to let go of needing everyone to like you. This puts you under too much pressure to be all things to all people. While it is good to get along with most people don't demand that everyone has to like you.The real issue here is the fear of rejection. If you do not deal with this fear you will never be able to let your personality shine.

posted by Indira Bandari @ 8:06 PM